Last fall, “respect” was a word that the Holy Spirit spoke to my heart and mind. God humbled me and opened my eyes to the subtle and not-so-subtle ways that I’d become insensitive to God’s direct will for me to always show respect to Craig.
Craig’s truly a wonderful husband – my dream come true! I know I got the better end of the deal when we married.
But marriage is never made up of flawless people. Disrespect can come out in my tone of voice, body language, or when I shut down verbally, emotionally and physically. Over past 21 years, I’ve dished out my share of rude, sarcastic remarks or critical speeches with which to speak my mind. This is absolutely wrong.
Respect is really a fruit of love. We know that love is patient, kind and humble – not rude and easily angered.
Although I feel that I’ve improved a good deal, God’s standard hasn’t changed. I have more growing to do in the respect category! Craig would probably say my most common battle nowadays is when I’m irritated over something and become “on edge” with him. My words become tense and sharp and he may or may not have done anything to provoke me. Poor guy!
It’s not fun to write about this. It’s unbecoming of a redeemed daughter of God. Thankfully, the Holy Spirit never leaves us where we are! He convicted me and I responded with gratitude, confession, and submission. As I yield to Him, He works to refine me into God’s image.
Wives, healing never comes through disobedience. Justifying our actions, blaming his behavior and rebelling against God’s Word will only leave us in greater pain. God is worthy of our obedience. Let’s choose to respect and honor our husbands as unto the Lord. We will only find righteousness, peace and joy on God’s path.
I now seek to place all my interactions with Craig through this powerful filter called RESPECT. God requires it. Craig’s position entitles it. With God’s strength, I will give it.
Will you join me?